F.R.I.E.N.D.S
a.k.a tomodachi...
read a few of my friends blog and realized this word is hang on everyone's mind....
been hanging on my mind too....
who do you regard as friends?
people who have been through thick and thin with you?
people who has common interest as you?
people who just happen to be there when you need them?
people who would drop everything and come to your aid when you need them to anywhere anytime?
people who you just sit down with to have a meal,drink or fun?
people who you use money to buy?
who..., which group of people do we in our own minds label as friends?
this question can only be answered if you look into yourself...do you treat them as friends? do they in return treat you as friends?
"friends forever and brothers for life"
do i believe in that?
i did, once long ago....
do i still stand by it now?
some what... ironically whoever you regard as friends then can now no longer be your friend...
due to a complicating no. of things, like:
R/S problem
poor memory
faking friendship
have another half to replace you as friend
money is their new friend
they have to secure their own future
friends come and go...whether you like it or not it happens...just like how shit happens...
"the enemy of my enemy is my friend"...but does that mean he is no longer a threat?
as for me everyone is my friend...."trust all, love few and do harm to oneself" that's how i live my life...
i'd rather i hurt myself than let others know the real truth....
for me everyone who i can have a nice chat to is a friend...any stranger i meet on the road or at work....
making friends is again ironically easier than any other thing in life.....with just a "hi" or a "bye" can easily make friends...
we live in a world where we are growing more and more dependent on computers and machines....these things lack a "warmth" to it...
for example if a good friend of mine were to come into my restaurant to eat, perhaps i could purposely count 1 less color plate to charge them...
however a machine cant....1 is 1 and 2 is 2....no compromising...
for my friends i'd do anything....
and then i must again ask myself this...i sacrifice so much for them....do they remember me?
do they know who i am?
do they know what i did?
and life kicks me in the back of my head at this point...because ironically the moronic answer most of the time is "NO"...
another thing i failed to share in my previous "im sharing this.." post is that from young till now my parents have never once credited me with anything good....
mostly all they ever credit me for is how stupid i was and how badly i failed my subjects....
till now i still cannot accept credit for a good deed, talk about traumatic childhood....
im not a complete person, much less a complete human being...
we all are not complete, therefore we constantly seek out "friends" who are actually parts and parcel of ourselves in reflection, some are like us who are deficient in similar areas or proficient in similar areas, others are parts of our "whole" self that we lost long ago or along the way, some are even our exact polar opposite and you wonder how did you get along in the first place....
we constantly look for these "friends" and surround ourselves with them because we need them to feel "whole" again... and then as they stay longer and longer around us we gradually learn from them...and people say this is how others "influence" us...but the fact is that we choose to surround ourselves with them so who to blame at the end of the day?
and then this "influence" stage will pass...if it does you will have already gotten used to the things they do...you would have already pick up the "parts" of their character which draws you to them....and then you find that these "friends" no longer work for you anymore...and then you will have to look for new ones...and these old "friends" will gradually cycle out of your life...
thats how i would explain why friends come and go regardless if we like it or not...because actually we made them come and go on a sub-conscious level...
think about what i said guys...
